It's Coming ...

Okay ... I do feel like the broken Barbie BUT I can't stay here. This has been the roughest time but even still it's not the worst time ever. Change is coming. I know and believe it is.

This Has GOT To Change ...

Rarely does a piece of art speak so specifically to how I feel. I feel like Barbie: down, out, beat down, dirty, done just done. This sucks so bad. I want to be positive I really really do. I try to be positive I really do. But things just are not looking up. SIGH how much more can one person take ... I'm ready for the tide to change. Its got to. So I keep it moving as much as I can but like Ms. Barbie today I'm simply stuck. ARGH!

Wake Up Everybody

Today another music legend died. Two days ago Haiti was rocked by devestating earthquakes ... and some people in the media blamed them. WOW! I'm truly saddened by the current state of things but Teddy told us what to do a long time ago.

R.I.P. Teddy Pendergrass

101 in 1001 Days Starting Today

WOW! 2010 is upon us. I'm pretty late. I thought on December 30 that I'd be so stoked for the New Year. But on December 31, I hit a wall of funk. I've not been myself and have really been trying to "snap out of it". A lot of my favorite bloggers are doing 101 things in 1001 days - it is a project/challenge where you choose 101 things you want to accomplish. Unlike bucket lists, you don't have an unlimited amount of time to achieve these tasks - you get 1001 days (roughly 2.75 years). In an attempt to break my funk, I've created my list. So without further ado, here's my 101 things in no particular order. (I plan to report on these goals here on my blog.)Interested in the challenge? Click here for the official site.

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DaVida Chanel's 101 Things In 1001 Days

Completion Date: Monday, October 8, 2012

First Update: Feb. 3

Second Update: March 27
Third Update: June 1
Fourth Update: July 22
Fifth Update: Sept 16

1. Organize/re do my apartment (I put my bedroom where the living room was, made a den/living room in the area that was going to be my office and my old bedroom is the office.)
   
2. Get my things from L.A. (I have boxes that are still in my friend's garage)
3. Find a job that allows me the time and financial security to pursue my passions (I started work as a production secretary on a television show, I still teach modeling/acting and am training for Director of Education and I do publicity for an artist on the verge of BLOWING UP!)
4. Develop a healthier lifestyle (better eating habits; become more physically active)
5. Meditate daily
6. Find a spiritual home here in New Orleans (I LOVED my "church" in L.A. and haven't found anything like it here; I feel disconnected and want to be a part of a spiritual family)
7. Repair my credit (pay off Discover once and for all!)
8. Pay off my car (and don't go get another one!)
9. Pay off my State of California traffic violations (this will be complete on Friday, April 2!!!)
10. Get my side view mirror repaired (this has made driving soo much better!)
    
11. Get a MAC computer and FinalCutPro
12. Get a video camera (my client gave me a flip cam; I love it! It takes away excuses of why I'm not shooting stuff)
    
13. Make short films to cultivate my storytelling and editing skills (with the flip cam I've been doing fun little 2-3 minute movies/clips)
    
14. Take an acting class
15. Join a writer's group (I'm in a writer's group!!!!! It started in August of 2010!! EXCITING!)
    
16. Find a cause I believe in and spend time volunteering for it
17. Write a viable business plan for DaVida Chanel Productions, LLC
18. Improve the layout for my blog (It's coming!!! Springcart is on the job...my new blog/website is coming soon! Don't worry, this one will still be up until it's ready!)
    
19. Attract more readers to my blog
20. Implement a skin car regimen that works (I've been on this one! I started the month with a facial -plan to do one monthly-and have beefed up my home skincare routine!)
    
21. Drink 8 glasses of water EVERY day PERIOD (I've been doing VERY well w/this one! I found my 32 oz water bottle and I fill it everyday before work. I drink it twice a day!)
22. Become more familiar with the vitamins my body needs and take them
23. Work on my sense of personal style (this one is ongoing but instead of working against my body type, I've been working with it!)
24. Work out my ATT issues so I can get internet at my apartment (DONE!!! They came and fixed it on Wednesday, April 24!)
25. Get Netflix
26. Join (or start) a group for A Course In Miracles (actually a spiritual book group)
27. Fill my home with inspiring words and images (vision boards, quotes, pictures, etc) (I've got several cool things up!)
    
28. See my Granny at least twice a month (My new job in her area means I'll see her basically everyday).
    
29. Visit Toronto
30. Visit South America (part fun - Argentina/Brazil; part service trip - Peru)
31. Be abstinent for 365 days (I know I can do it and I'll write a blog entry to explain why)
32. Read "Think and Grow Rich"
    
33. Read "The Audacity of Hope"
34. Read "Story"
35. Read "In the Blink of An Eye"
36. Read "The Invisible Man"
37. Read "The Catcher in the Rye"
38. Read "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy"
39. Read "The Undiscovered Self"
40. Read "The Power of Intention"
41. Read "The 40 Day Mind Fast Soul Feast"
42. See "Schindler's List"
43. See "Gone with the Wind"
44. See "Annie Hall"
45. See "Chinatown"
46. See "Field of Dreams"
47. See "Hav Plenty"
48. See "All About Eve" saw this on Jan. 27 and LOVED it!!
49. See "Thin Blue Line"
50. See "Pirates of the Caribbean" series (I know I know, I'm WAY late on these)
51. See "Lolita"
52. Learn to swim (SERIOUSLY!!! No more playing with this one!!)
53. Learn to make spaghetti sauce from scratch
54. Host a small dinner party in my home I've done well with this one-I had my women's power group over and also hosted my friends for the BET Awards!
    
55. Become a published writer (this has been on my list for SOME time; time to submit articles!) My articles have been published on urbanorleans.com and other sites!!!
    
56. Upon waking up in the morning, write down the previous night's dreams Becoming VERY regimented with this one-one of my favorite activities.
    
57. Give myself weekly mani/pedi's
58. Have a soul reading with Maryann RussellDone! And I must say life changing!
59. Buy a bike and actually ride it!
60. Let my hair grow long because it simply looks better long! (This one will be a tough one because I get feelings and go chop my hair-I want to let it grow over these 1001 days! Only getting my ends trimmed!)
61. Take my little sister to NYC for a weekend for her graduation - she's set to graduate in 2011!
62. Write and produce a stage play (this one in the works!)
63. Meet the daughters of three of my good friends and the husband of a fourth (I'm long overdue on this one!)
64. Write a letter to my future self (the me I shall be at the end of this decade). Then use futureme.org to automatically send myself the letter (read this in the Oprah mag)
65. Drive to Destin, Florida alone and have a few days of R&R and self reflection
66. Complete my documentary and enter it into film festivals
67. Find a dentist in New Orleans YES! Proud patient of Dr. Ken Launey!
    
68. Do another nightlife mixer event (the first one kind of shell shocked me but I've got to try again)
69. Visit the national World War II Museum (since it IS right up the street!)
70. See the "Disney Dreams Come True" exhibit at NOMA before it leaves (it is here until March 14, 2010)
71. Get back into public speaking (seek more opportunities to speak in front of groups) I helped Kourtney Heart with her "Kourtney's Little Princesses" event. I got to speak to a group of young girls! Felt good.
    
72. Find a workout I really enjoy (I don't work out consistently because I simply don't like it! There's got to be SOME physical activity I could enjoy!)
73. Have a mammogram
74. Do the Denise Ford 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse
75. Seek professional help for my abandonment issues The Maryann Russell convo put that one to rest!
    
76. Become 100 percent drug free
77. Eat breakfast EVERY day PERIOD
78. Meet Oprah
79. Meet Will Smith
80. Find a female mentor (I have a ton of AWESOME mentors but they are all male; I need to connect with a woman that is older than me. I think that would be highly beneficial)
81. Clip and use coupons for household needs
82. See WICKED when it comes to New Orleans (absolute FAVORITE play!!!)
83. Adopt a pet ( I want a kitten!)
84. Study a foreign language (I want to learn Portugese but I don't know Spanish so I guess I have to start there?)
85. Get renter's insurance I'm insured!
    
86. See Kanye West in concert
87. See Corinne Bailey Rae in concert
88. See John Mayer in concert - Saw him on March 10 and he was AWESOME!
89. See Adele in concert
90. See Jay Electronica in concert
91. See Dr. John in concert
92. See Erykah Badu in concert ... again
93. Fill in the blanks on my list and post it on the official 101 things 1001 days site
94. Get a new tattoo
95. Watch entire series of The Wire
96. Submit proposal to Sundance for documentary funding
97. Donate blood at least once annually
98. Get a new website/rather get my website redesigned Being worked on right now!!!!
    
99. Write a memoir (to be added as I explore more of what it is I want to accomplish)
100. tba
101. tba

Well, that's my list for now. Writing (typing) this has really helped my funk. Seeing things I want to do and accomplish (big and small) have been really helpful in seeing what it is I want to get done. Deep breath...I can do this man!!!!

So what do you think of the 101 idea? I'd love to see your list - please share!!!

Highlights of the Decade

WTH!!!! Not only is New Year's upon us but the end of the decade is here. WOW!!! I guess I hadn't quite realized that. The last turn of the decade found me on the sofa at my Granny's house fearing Y2K instead of out somewhere partying like it was 1999! LOL! Let's see back then I had just completed my first few months as assistant sports information director at Purdue. I didn't know for sure what I wanted to do with my life but I didn't think Indiana was the place I'd spend my life (maybe being stuck in the snow one too many times confirmed that). Over the last 10 years I've grown a ton, experienced a lot, racked up a lot of debt and had a ball. So today I want to take a look back at the decade. Here are the things that stand out the most for me as I think back ...

A look back at 2000-2009

2000 - I moved to Indiana in August of 1999 to work at Purdue and only knew my roommate who was my line sister from college (who just so happened to have gotten accepted to grad school there). In 2000, I stepped out of my comfort zone and attempted to make friends. It was a great decision. My strongest connection was to one of my best friends Karla. She's awesome - since she was in grad school as well as my roommate, through the two of them I began to connect with their friends (Josey and Lorna soon followed and the four of us became The Hot Girls - literally got a shot named after us! LOL!). Then there's Kendra (remember her She Makes Me Wanna?). Hanging w/K and her crew (her now hubby Pleas, BFFs Brandon, Tricey and Kristen) made me feel like I was experiencing undergrad all over again. Then I had awesome co-workers. So the highlight of '00 was really connecting with the folk in my new community.More...

2001 - September 11. The biggest change I saw in myself as a result was no longer being comfortable. It created an urgency inside of me. It also made me really REALLY want to be in love. When I'd hear the calls from the plane it made me feel so lonely. If I had been in that position,who would I have called?

2002 - Still unsettled from 9-11 I figured I'd make a move. I applied to law schools and was accepted to Thurgood Marshall in Houston. I really wanted to go to IU but I was wait listed. While waiting I moved to Chicago and stayed with my cousin. One night I went out with my "boo" who worked in a suburb near by. We drank too much and for some reason I let him drive. We ended up crashed into a light pole. That sobered me up and I happily went to school in Houston.

2003 - I was convinced my future was in entertainment so I vowed to be as active as I could wherever I lived en route to L.A. (I'd always wanted to live in 'Cali so my goal was to be as prepped as I possibly could be.) I got an intern at Music World Entertainment, home of Ms. Beyonce Knowles! It was a great experience but the fact I got "fired" because I said I knew someone that used to work there let me know this business will go on with or w/o you! That experience spurred me to learn as much as I could about the inside biz of Hollywood. I read every book written on the subject and devised a plan. I developed CHUTZPAH!

2004 - 10 years following my high school graduation and I can't remember the highlight of that year ...

2005 -
I moved to L.A.! I was living my dream. After crashing at Mistie's for a month or so, I got my first place in Koreatown (not quite my dream but it was perfect!). I LIVED in L.A. I bartended until September when my friend Brandi introduced me to Vincent Cirrincione ... and the rest is history! I was traveling like crazy in '05- fav spot Miami. I got to go to the VMAs there in Aug of that year. My flight was the last one let into the city b/c of Hurricane Katrina. My friends and I KICKED it and made jokes that we partied through a hurricane. But on Monday when I woke up back in L.A. it was horrific to see the devastation. CRAZY!

2006 -
The big 3.0.!
In celebration a host of my friends and I went back to Miami! I was surrounded by laughs and love! Later in December my friend Kendra took me and Brandon to London to see Jay-Z!!! CRAZY! (I think it was the highlight of the decade for me!)

2007 - I got my first movie credit!!! YAY! I started working for my former boss David at Brillstein during July of 2007. He was producing FIRST SUNDAY and my first day of work was the first day of shooting. I assisted him throughout filming but didn't think about credits, I was just doing my job. Well the next January I invited my little cousin Ashley as my plus one. At the end when everyone is sitting there during the credits my name popped up on the screen as assistant to the producer!!

2008 - My 22 year old cousin lost her 3 1/2 month battle with cancer. This made me really evaluate what was going on in my life. I was not happy and moving closer to my Granny was the objective. However, when I lost my job that Oct., I was not sure New Orleans was the place for me. Luckily I came anyway.

2009 - My first year in da N.O. (ya heard me!). So many memories but I guess the highlight was working my first physical production job

What are some of your personal highlights of the decade?

Avatar 3D

I saw Avatar on Sunday and it was so awesome I must must must blog about it. This one has many spoilers so if you haven't seen it, don't click more!!!

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This movie is AMAZING! I've heard some say the story was basic and predictable and at some points it is - you know the guy and girl are going to end up together you just don't know how. While I find the story to be well written - I mean its a James Cameron love story of course it is (remember Titanic!) - the visuals make it come alive. (The 3D is highly necessary for this one!) I felt like I was out of space. It also contained so many subliminal messages - well let me say I got some cool messages from it!
The first and biggest message was that when our national resources get low, we will go to other places and wage war to get what we need. In this film, the bounds of Earth weren't enough to stop us. MESSAGE! Going to fight a war on someone else's territory doesn't always work! But going to someone else's territory and really learning/understanding their culture and assimilating to it does.
Group prayer can really change things. In the movie the people of Pandora lived life by going with the flow of life. When things got really REALLY bad the whole village sat down and began to meditate in a sacred place. Hmmm, what would happen if everyone in America sat down with one common thought and began to meditate on it? (NOTE: This kind of happens now except we tend to focus on things like recession, war, lack...)
When you are really REALLY in love, you SEE the person for who they really heart at the core of their being. When Neytiri finally saw Sam as the mere human he was it didn't matter - she still saw HIM. The real us lies at our core and when it love (mutual, reciprocated love) that reality clearly shines through.
Awww that's it for now although I could go on. I loved that movie!

My Thoughts on Infidelity

Deep breath.

Ok, I can do this. I am officially making a statement about infidelity.

This one is tough as I don't know that many people will agree with me. (People usually get where I'm coming from but this is topic I can't quite get people to see my way.)

In light of all that is going on in the world, does it really matter that the husband of a woman I don't know really affect my life? Does it affect yours?

I'm sooooo so so soooo tired of the media covering the Tiger Woods situation. I obviously know who the man is and I applaud his professional accomplishments, but at the end of the day he is simply a man married to a woman and I don't know either one of them. I don't know his true character, his likes/dislikes or what he needs in a relationship. I never heard of her except the fact they were married. So who am I to judge what they decide to do at home or in the streets?

This situation has brought up many issues for me. I have always believed that marital issues should be resolved by the two people in the marriage. I would hope that people would be more compassionate to others. We've all screwed up before but when it comes to infidelity, people say the most "holier than though" things ever! This lady on CNN said the other night that Tiger should lose every endorsement and never be allowed to make money playing golf again. Really? In "real" life, I've heard women tell other women that they'd be stupid to stay with their husband who cheated. Craziest thing ever to me! Why would I (someone without a man)tell a woman with a man to leave especially if it was an issue they are working to resolve?!?!

I've never been married and have not been in a serious relationship for some time. But I've been cheated on and lied to by people I loved. Those experiences have molded me and shaped me into the person I am today. It hurt like hell at the time but I obviously made it through and am here today. When its all said and done, if a man left me, that meant he wasn't for me and with time, I moved on (and am currently not concerned with ANY of my ex-loves). I simply wish that in matters of infidelity people would allow the two people who are married and in the relationship to move on.